One Crime, Many Comfortable Lies
In Agra, a young woman was brutally murdered by a man who could not accept that a relationship had ended.
The details are disturbing.
But what’s more disturbing is how quickly society reaches for easy explanations—love affairs, modern culture, dating, women’s choices—anything except the real disease.
This was not a crime of love.
This was a crime of control, obsession, and entitlement.
And until we name it honestly, it will keep happening.
1️⃣ This Wasn’t Passion. It Was Possession.
Let’s be clear:
Love does not respond to rejection with violence.
What we’re seeing again and again is not heartbreak—it’s an ownership mindset. A belief that “if you leave me, you destroy me”, and therefore must be punished.
That belief is not romance.
It’s pathology.
2️⃣ “If She Married Someone Else, He’d Kill Him Too” — Exactly
This is an important insight—and it exposes the truth.
When someone believes another human being is their property, any threat to that fantasy becomes an enemy:
the woman
her new partner
sometimes even her family
This isn’t about relationships failing.
It’s about men who cannot tolerate loss of control.
3️⃣ Stop Romanticising Violence as a “Bad Ending.”
Calling these cases “love affairs gone wrong” is dangerous.
It:
sanitizes brutality
blurs accountability
turns warning signs into hindsight
No breakup causes murder.
Murder is caused by people who believe they are entitled to another person’s life.
4️⃣ The Real Reasons These Crimes Are Increasing
Let’s talk honestly about what is rising:
🔴 Emotional immaturity
Many adults have never been taught how to process rejection, jealousy, or failure.
🔴 Masculinity tied to control
Too many boys grow up believing dominance equals dignity.
🔴 Obsession mistaken for devotion
Stalking, monitoring, and rage are excused as “true love” in films, songs, and peer groups.
🔴 Lack of mental health intervention
Red flags are ignored until they explode.
This is not a dating problem.
This is a socialisation problem.
5️⃣ Arranged marriage vs love Marriage: Is a False Debate
The idea that arranged marriages were “safer” is selective memory.
Violence existed then too—just hidden, silenced, normalised.
What protected people earlier wasn’t the absence of choice, but:
stronger community oversight
consequences
less glorification of obsession
The solution is not rolling back freedom.
It’s raising emotional accountability.
6️⃣ The Question We Should Be Asking (But Aren’t)
Not: “Why did she choose him?”
Not: “Why didn’t she foresee this?”
But:
Why are we raising people who believe rejection justifies murder?
Why are warning signs laughed off as “intense love”?
Why is male rage so often explained—but rarely confronted?
🔚 Final Word: The Past Isn’t the Problem. Entitlement Is.
This crime wasn’t caused by dating culture.
It wasn’t caused by modernity.
It wasn’t caused by a woman’s choices.
It was caused by a man who believed another human being owed him her life.
Until society stops excusing obsession, stops romanticising rage, and starts teaching emotional responsibility as seriously as it teaches ambition, these stories will keep repeating.
And each time, we’ll ask “What is happening to society?”
When the answer has been staring us all along.
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