Reasons why you don't feel the love you want..?
We frequently long for a particular kind of love, but it eludes us because we shield ourselves from showing our vulnerability to others. Trauma and previous events when we were made to feel ashamed of our emotional openness or vulnerability may be the cause of this. But we never get the love we're looking for if we keep erecting barriers around ourselves and quit trying."Most people are unaware that they are obstructing their own love. In humans, our actions are a result of our thoughts, which are a result of our beliefs. Your beliefs determine how you behave in your marriage when things aren't going your way. Relationship Coach Julia Woods noted, "You show up in conflicts with your spouse based on what you believe." She went on to list a few more reasons why we don't have the kind of love we desire.
We think we are not deserving of it: We constantly believe that we are not deserving of excessive affection, so when we experience healthy affection, we tend to back off. This may cause us to turn away from the love we truly deserve.
We don't think we merit it: We think that in order to obtain the connection we desire, we must be flawless. We continuously minimize our accomplishments, personalities, and appearance. It makes us believe that we are undeserving of the affection.
We think that healthy love is possible, but we also think that it is impossible for us to receive that sort of love since we are quite pessimistic about the state of the world.
We think it will end badly because we think that even if we are lucky enough to find the love of our dreams, it will eventually fade and leave us sad.
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